Do you have any annoying habits? Probably–everyone does. But when you’re on a first date, it’s important to keep the glaring ones at bay, so that your date can focus on your charming, personable self, and not the fact that you crack your knuckles every three seconds.
Sure, these habits aren’t universally loathed, and none of them are dealbreakers. But on a first date, you don’t know what might bother your companion, so out of politeness, it’s probably best to steer clear.
1. Cracking Your Knuckles
“It’s not that cracking your knuckles is all that bad for you; it’s just that for some people, the sound is like nails on a chalkboard, and you never know when you’re in the company of one of those people.”
Look, after you’ve been dating someone for a long time, and it’s been a long day, and you just want to crack your knuckles, it’s not gonna be that big of a deal–your significant other isn’t going to break up with you.
But on the first date, when you have nothing but your charm and your ability to exercise some amount of self-control to recommend you, best try to lay back on the (bone)grating habit.
2. Picking At Your Body
Ewwwwwwwwwwwww. Ew ew ew ew ew.
Sorry. Just had a visceral reaction to the mere term “picking at your body.”
I know people sometimes do this when they get nervous, and often don’t even notice they’re doing it. But it’s reeealllly important to try to keep your hands like, off of your skin while you’re trying to woo someone.
3. Apologizing Unnecessarily
There is nothing worse than going on a date and having to constantly reassure someone who keeps apologizing. There are only so many times you can say “It’s fine!”
Apologize for being late, apologize for spilling your drink, apologize for forgetting your wallet; don’t apologize for the slow service, for a dumb joke, for forgetting something, for laughing too hard, for talking too quietly, for having to repeat something, for excusing yourself to go to the bathroom, etc etc….
When you’re on a date, you want the other person to like you, so it’s understandable that you’d be eager to make that salient point or hilarious comment that you just thought of–even if your date has started talking.
This. Is. Rude.
Of course you didn’t MEAN to cut him/her off, but they will be too focused on the fact that you just interrupted them to even pay attention to your brilliant witticism–thus obliterating the point of interrupting in the first place. Interrupting also sends out the message: “I’m not interested in what you’re saying.” Not really a good strategy on a first date.
5. The Jitters
Dates can be nerve-wracking, but don’t let those nerves turn into physical jitters. Your date will be wondering whether you have a drug addiction or Restless Leg Syndrome.
6. Shifty Eyes
“We know it can sometimes be intimidating to maintain eye contact with a pretty girl, but constantly scanning the room like you’re waiting for the Navy SEALs to bust in makes you look shifty.”
Here’s the thing about eyes: your date has them, too. And your date can see where yours are looking. (Hint: they should always be looking at your date.)
Look, there’s nothing wrong with swearing in general–some people are more okay with it than others. But even people who love a good curse word can be taken aback when profanities are uttered on the very first date. If swearing is just an integral part of your vernacular, at least try to keep it towards the end of the date. (As opposed to, “Hey, are you Joe? Nice to meet you! Fuckin’ A, it’s hot in here, I’m sweating my balls off!”)
8. Looking At Your Phone
The most popular answer to the HowAboutWe Profile Question “First Date No-No” is texting/looking at your phone during the date. Like, seriously, you can’t put away your phone for ONE hour and talk to me? Unless you’re an on call ER doctor, or, like, the President, this is rude, and makes your date feel like you’re not interested!
What habits or social ticks are a turnoff for you? Tell us in the comments.