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How Wide Should Your Age Range Be? 5 Points to Consider

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Would you be willing to date someone 15 years older than you? Or 10 years younger? Your dating age range is a completely personal choice, but there are a few things to consider.

Wider Range = More Dates

Obviously. The more people you are willing to date, the more dates you’ll get. However, you also want to date people that you’re attracted to, relate to and feel comfortable dating. So how do you arrive at the age range that is right for you?

Start With Your Celebrity Crushes

There are few people I know, male or female, who wouldn’t consider dating Tina Fey if she were single. She’s 41. George Clooney? 50. Would you date Emma Watson? (Yeah, you would.) She’s 21. Universally crushable Paul Rudd is 40. Angelina Jolie is one of the hottest women on the planet and she’s 36.

Of course, not everyone has the money, free time, surgery or personal trainers to get that “celeb look,” but you should consider: if you’d date one person who is significantly older or younger than you, might you date another?

Use Your Family Friends As a Gauge

Would be comfortable dating one of your younger sister’s friends? What about one of your father’s co-workers? You won’t, of course, have to encounter the awkwardness of either of those situations in your dating life, but your comfort level when considering such options will give you a sense of how old or young you’re willing to go.

Consider What You Were Like

When thinking about how young to date, it’s important to consider how you acted when you were young. How did you think about love at 20? 24? 27? Would you have been ready to date you? Would it have benefitted you to date someone older?

Of course, everyone matures at a different rate, so you may want to ask your friends, too.

Add On an Extra 2 Years In Either Direction

Remember that there are “young” 37-year-olds and “old” 23-year-olds. Do you really want to miss out on someone who might be right for you because they’re 42 and not 40? Once you’ve settled on an age range that feels comfortable to you, extend it by two years in either direction. In the grand scheme of things, it’s not that big a deal and it will open up your options a bit.

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