Single on Valentine’s Day…’nuff said? There are all kinds of guides out there about how to take your mind off it, or ice cream away the dread, or scrounge up a last-minute date at all costs.
1. Sublimate! Look, you’re feeling that urge more than ever to be coupled, to lay in bed with someone, maybe even to get knocked up – so take those natural impulses and exorcise them elsewhere, in a productive way. That “treat yourself to a night in” advice is bullshit, unless you actually accomplish something. Paint a room you’ve been putting off, clean out the attic, finish the novel that’s been on your nightstand for three months. The cathartic chemical charge you’ll get from crossing something off a list will be so much better than just wallowing.
2. Ladle out a dinner for people who aren’t even thinking about V-Day. I know it’s easy to just skip right past this one, but if you really want to put your troubles in perspective and feel grateful on V-Day for what you do have, go down to a soup kitchen and hang with some homeless folks. They aren’t complaining about how they haven’t found Mr. or Ms. Right yet. And as you’re dishing out a warm February meal for them, ask to hear some good Valentines Day stories – guarantee it’ll make your night.
4. Sort-of seeing someone? Do a low-key V-day. Just because you’ve only been on two dates doesn’t mean you can’t take part in some Valentine-ish festivities. Be the one who’s up-front and say “Hey, I know we’ve only been on two dates, and I’m not asking you to be my Valentine. But want to go to a wine bar or something anyway?” It doesn’t have to be a high-stakes night, and I’m sorry, but Serious Couples do not have a monopoly on the official romance holiday.