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6 Things Women Really Need to Stop Letting Interfere with Their Sex Lives

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1. The Size of Your Breasts. Do you really think that he cares if your girls are “not big enough”? There’s no need to add 17 layers of padding or buy that push-up bra you saw at Fredericks of Hollywood. (Please tell me that you don’t actually shop there.) And who knows — it might be a total turn-on for him.

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2. The “I Don’t Shave/Wax in the Winter” Mantra. We women are pretty good at keeping up with our manicures during the winter months, but leg shaving and bikini waxing often fall off our radar. Getting a bikini wax isn’t exactly fun, so if we’re going to do it, there’d better be a beach somewhere. Or Hawaii. But you know what’s better than Hawaii? Mind-blowing oral sex. Enough said.

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3. Your Stretch Marks. They’re there. They probably aren’t going anywhere anytime soon. Deal with it. For the single mom who used to have abs like Halle Berry and now… eh. I feel your pain. But it’s all good. Trust me — he still thinks you’re sexy. Never have I ever heard of foreplay coming to a screeching halt because a guy discovered stretch marks.

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4. The Fact That He Never Sleeps At Your Place. This one is particularly for the single moms. Yes, relationships are supposed to be about compromise and blah, blah, blah. But, really, it’s probably a good idea to take things to his place. My son still wakes up in the middle of the night. Imagine him waking up and seeing mommy trying to get her groove back with a stranger. Keep your sex life simple and save your “I screwed my kid up” therapist money for something else. Unless Mr. Man has spent a significant amount of time around your kid, do the deed at his place. Or at your place when the kid is with the other parent for the night.

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5. Doubts About Your Oral Performance I know, I know. It’s not easy to do. Literally. Cue Samantha from Sex and the City, “There’s teeth placement, jaw suction, gag reflex… all while bobbing up and down, moaning, and trying to breathe through your nose… they don’t call it a job for nothing.” But guys like it. And no matter how bad you think you might be at giving oral, as long as you’re not biting his little big friend, he’s probably enjoying it. To him, a “bad” blow job is probably akin to “bad” pizza. Even if it’s not perfect, it’s probably pretty good.

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6. Assuming Your Moves Aren’t As Good As His Last Sexual Encounter. Listen up, ladies: when you come back from a hot date, and he’s been eye-humping you throughout the date and visualizing what it would be like to finally get it on, the last thing on his mind is going to be if you’re as good as his last partner. (He’s probably more concerned if he’s as good as your last one.) So stop fretting. Just let your hair down, get a little sweaty, work it, moan a lot (but not too loud or anything porn-esque) and enjoy yourself.

Alicia Harper, M.A., Ed.M. is a 20something single mother, blogger, and recent graduate of Columbia University turned Mental Health Therapist. Her life is filled with all things pink, except for the one bit of blue – her rambunctious 4-year-old son. Together they make a great pair, and Alicia chronicles the trials and triumphs of being a young, single mother living in NYC at Mommy Delicious. Find her on Facebook. Follow her on Twitter.

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