It seems like a daunting prospect to buy someone else a piece of jewelry. After all, diamonds are supposed to be a girl’s best friend, but what if the diamonds are the wrong color? Fear not – HowAboutWe has teamed up with jewelry retailer Gemvara to answer a couple of questions about all things sparkly. The good news? It’s not as intimidating to buy for yourself – or a special person in your life – as you think. And that old “two months’ salary” rule? Forget about it.
Some people prefer to skip diamonds because they’re not sure whether the stone was sourced ethically. Others find them old-fashioned or overused in jewelry. Either way, there are plenty of beautiful stones that cost less and can be just as precious. Jenna Hari, who heads up customer care for Gemvara recommends looking up your birthstone (for example, February is amethyst and May is emerald) as a starting point to make your jewelry more personal. But what if you were born in October and don’t like opals? Just choose a color that speaks to you. Hari recalls one groom who picked an aquamarine ring “because they were the color of his girlfriend’s eyes.” All together now: Awwww.
Keep inside jokes inside.
Rings and bracelets lend themselves well to hidden engraved messages. If you and your partner have an inside joke, now’s the time to put it inside a piece of jewelry where only you guys can see it. On Full House, Uncle Jesse got “Love me tender” inside Aunt Becky’s ring – considering that he was the world’s biggest Elvis fan, it seemed appropriate. Hari also suggests incorporating a couples’ initials or an anniversary date.
Consider the audience.
If you’re picking out jewelry for someone and don’t know whether they’ll like something, Hari says to look at the way the recipient dresses and go from there. A girl who keeps her look traditional and conservative might not have a lot of opportunities to wear a hot-pink ruby, while a girl who loves vintage dresses might not love an ultramodern piece. If you’re still not sure? Gemvara has consultants who can work with you over the phone or online to help answer questions and allay some of those buying –bijoux jitters.
Maybe don’t buy your girlfriend a ring if you’re not proposing.
Yes, jewelry is one of those gifts that works for just about any occasion. But if the occasion in question is a birthday, anniversary, graduation, or other major life event that isn’t a proposal, a ring might not be the right present here. Still want something timeless? Think about a classic pendant or a classy bangle. They have all the sparkle of a ring without any of the mixed messages.
If you want jewelry, you don’t have to wait for someone else to buy it for you.
Sisters are doing it for themselves, and sometimes “it” means “buying nice jewelry.” Lately, the tradition of the Right Hand Diamond Ring (RHDR) has taken off among women – the idea is that they can now afford to buy their own jewelry, even if it’s a ring they want. “I think it’s special when a woman thinks she deserves that and is treating herself to a beautiful piece,” says Hari.
It’s not bad luck for a bride to see the ring before the wedding.
That old superstition might apply to the groom seeing the bride’s dress before the ceremony, but it doesn’t apply to the engagement ring. These days, many couples wait until they’re older and more financially secure to get married and may have moved in together or discussed getting married before the proposal actually happens. Hari has seen couples where the guy proposed with a toy ring, then brought his new fiancée into the store so that they can both pick out a ring together. Bonus point: it’s easier to know what someone will like if she’s standing right there and you can ask her.
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