The do or die relationships aren’t full of all-consuming love all day every day. In career, in love, in LIFE, fighting for your point of view is one of the most important things, no matter the outcome. Arguing every now and again is typical: if anything it shows that you both care about each other enough to be honest with one another. It’s HEALTHY to argue! It makes what you have real.
In a relationship, it is important to see the difference between arguing at a healthy level, and arguing at a toxic one. Don’t get me wrong – if you’re fighting about your boyfriend constantly cheating on you, that is a completely different kettle of fish – but if you are arguing about him spending more time with your friends, or where you would both prefer to live: hear each other out.
It relieves stress or worry
Sometimes, we build up something small in our heads and let it get bigger and bigger until we explode, (most of the time completely out of the blue and uncalled for). If something is bothering you, speak up straight away! Arguing helps you relieve stress or worry from your relationship by clearing out those negative emotions. Fighting about something that is concerning you is productive, as it clears out channels of frustration which can lead to said out of order conflict. Don’t shy away from a subject because you are afraid of having an argument – otherwise you will end up being the asshole later on!
It shows that you care
Not only does arguing relieve stress or worry, it helps you practice compromise and sort through an issue together as a team. You are comfortable to express how you are feeling, which means you will always learn from each other. Just because you are in love doesn’t mean you won’t stand by what you want and deserve – you already know what you have won’t be broken.
It helps you express your feelings
Arguing keeps you open to your partner’s perspective, while expressing your own feelings. When you are fighting about something together, it opens up a healthy line of communication that allows for concerns to be raised freely in the future. You know you will be heard down the road! When you come to a conclusion – congratulate each other. (Makeup sex is the best part)!
One thing to always remember: Fight fair. No matter how mad you are, don’t go to bed angry with each other. Respect what the other person has to say – as the odds are you won’t agree with everything throughout your relationship. After all, calling each other out on each others shit is what makes love, love!