How to Be the Best Matchmaker Ever (& Not Make Enemies): 8 Important Dos and Don’tsby The Frisky on December 28, 2012
I love bringing people together, and am what Malcolm Gladwell would call a “connector.” If you’re telling me about how you really love comic books, I’m going to hook you up with my friend who’s selling a bunch you might want. You want a new assistant at your office? My friend’s younger brother is the perfect kid for the job. Or you need a new apartment? I’ve got a buddy who’s a Realtor who can help find you a place. And in that same way I love helping my friends make love connections. Over the years, I’ve introduced a few couples (one met while there was a destructive indoor fireworks show happening at my house on New Year’s a few years back) and have also been the object of a set up or two. And I’ve learned there are a few helpful rules you should observe when trying to make sparks fly:
Make Sure Your Friend Really, Actually Wants To Be Set Up
Nudge, Don’t Force
Your role is to introduce and provide a neutral ground (a party, a coffee date, whatever) for your friends to meet. And that’s it. Don’t noodle or bug them after the fact. And if you value your friendships stay out of whatever annoying interpersonal dramas they happen to start up. Or in other words, MYOB!
Don’t Set A Friend Up With Someone YOU Actually Want To Date
Timing, Timing, Timing
Don’t Insult Anyone
I was once set up on a date by a friend who thought I’d absolutely get along great with another friend of hers. Turns out, he was a socially awkward dishrag of a dude, and I ended up feeling super insulted that she’d thought he was right for me. Only set people up who you think might actually have a connection — don’t subject your friends to going on awkward dates just because you happen to know a few single guys. This goes double for gay friends. Newsflash: Just because two people are gay doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re bound to get it on.