Is A Lack of Dating Experience at 30 a Turn-Off?

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RedEye Chicago’s sex columnist recently got an interesting question, which I have a hunch resonates with a lot of people: at a certain age, does lack of experience become a turn-off?

I’m almost 30 and have never been in a relationship. I blame this on a number of circumstances, but let’s be honest. At this point, half the problem is that I’m almost 30 and have never been in a relationship. Even if I think someone is attractive, mentally or physically, I can’t seem to convey that I’m interested without saying something along the lines of “Me Jane, you cute.” To make it even more fun, I’m active online the most, and while I seem to have flirting down there, finding people who aren’t states away to flirt with in the real world is a gigantic hurdle. While I’m not opposed to online relationships or even long distance, I’d rather meet people in person before I invest time and emotion in a deeper connection with them. Any suggestions for portraying availability and interest without giving away my complete and utter lack of experience with the opposite sex and keeping it local?

My initial gut-response to this?


Seriously! Online dating is perfect for her because,

A) Everyone on an online dating site is actively looking for a date, so she doesn’t have to worry too much about conveying interest.

B) She can list her interests, hobbies, and romantic preferences on her online dating profile. She doesn’t have to list her romantic history (or lack thereof).

C) Online dating means exchanging a few messages before meeting. She’s obviously comfortable flirting online, that way, when she meets someone in person, she’ll have already developed a flirtatious rapport with them.

Seems like such an obvious solution, no?

RedEye’s blogger also had some really good advice on how to flirt and get over the mental block of feeling “other“, too. Definitely worth checking out.


[RedEye: How to Date in Your 30s]