For all intents and purposes, when it came to me, my parents were extremely lax. This is probably because unlike my brother and sister, I always remembered to call and check in, in high school my social life consisted of debate tournaments and practically nothing else, and beyond that I was always capable of talking myself out of anything remotely fun if I thought it might upset someone.
So even when I went through that crazy period of staying out until 3am and sleeping past noon, they never really questioned what I was doing or who I was with, trusting instead that I’d abide by their limited rules (no being brought home by the police, no needing to have an ambulance or the fire department called, and no getting involved in internet porn). With all of that said I knew instinctively that there were some things that they should have known about my dating life, even after (especially after) I got old enough to be considered an adult. And of course there were some things that were (and are) none of their business at all. Unsure of where to draw that line in your own life? Look no further than the lists below:
5 things your parents should know about your dating life:
When you get serious with someone
Going on a few dates is no big deal and not necessarily something you need to call home about. But when you start talking about cohabitation or buying a puppy together it’s time to call mom and dad and dish. Also if this relationship ends call them and tell them about the split as well.
If you’re being abused in a relationship
This isn’t a subject that you may feel comfortable talking about, but in addition to calling the cops, also make sure that you connect with your parents about this — their support is going to be pretty crucial in making it past some of the more difficult aspects of this situation.
What type of people you’re attracted to
You don’t have to get into nitty gritty details but blind dates and introductions to the children of co-workers, or the new intern in their office are a lot less awkward when the parental units are clued into what you like.
Whether or not you’re honestly looking to settle down
I was on the phone with my dad recently when out of nowhere he asked when I was going to have a baby. I suppose that at my age this is a fair question, but it caught me off guard nonetheless because I have absolutely no intent on bringing a kid into this world and I thought everyone knew that. Apparently, I forgot to inform my parents.
If there’s something about your significant other that may come as a surprise to them
Don’t just show up at Thanksgiving or your family reunion with someone who’s going to cause a wtf moment in your familial universe. This will vary based on your parents, but common causes of shock are radical age differences, someone of a different race or someone of the same sex.
5 things your parents shouldn’t know about your dating life:
How many times you’ve done “the walk of shame”
One night stands aren’t something that should be discussed with your parents. Ever.
About your Katy Perry song lyric moments
Okay so you kissed a girl (or a guy) and you liked it. Unless you’re looking to make a lifestyle change that may make it impossible for you to get married in certain states you can keep those facts to yourself.
The exact reasons why you’re dating someone
I think we’re all guilty of dating someone for a shallow reason and then having it blow up in our face. Moms and Dads are masters at making “I told you so” sound extra smug, don’t give them the satisfaction by sharing those times with them when you’re dating someone for all the wrong reasons.
How many nights a week you’re out
In your parents eyes there’s no ratio that’s going to make them happy. If you’re out on a date every night they’re going to get antsy about why you’re not settling down. And if you’re not going out at all or what they consider enough they’re going to think you’re antisocial.
When your dating life enters a morally grey zone
Save the stories about dating your boss or sleeping with someone married for your best friend, this isn’t the life that your parents want for you and so they’ll likely never approve of any actions that are ethically questionable. Save yourself the lecture (because no matter how old you are, your parents still feel as if it’s their right to lecture) and take them out for lattés instead.