Q: We just started dating. Do I get her a Christmas gift? And if so, how much do I spend?
A: I know you’re dreading this whole holiday gift debacle. Want to know what, though? We are dreading it just as much.
That’s right, boys. We’d rather you didn’t spend any more money on us at the start of the relationship. Don’t think we aren’t fully aware that you’ve been picking up the dinner check and paying for everything from post-dinner Starbucks to concert tickets—because it’s all up in our heads right now.
But want to know the only thought worse than you giving us a gift? The thought that you might not. Yes, even if we insist you don’t need to get us anything for Christmas, you do. (Stick with me here.) If you don’t, we’re going to assume you’re on the fence about us, or just don’t care that much. It’s hard for an early relationship to recover from that, so don’t blow this, dude.
Claire Austen is a 20-something freelance writer, sports enthusiast, and polka-dot-lovin’ everygirl trying to bridge the gap between what men know about women and what women wish men knew. She gives smart, super-honest advice about your biggest dating and relationship conundrums.