A friend was just rehashing her Saturday night with a group of girls, and she started talking about this guy, who she wasn’t initially attracted to, that started hitting on her in a bar. I think she was all geared up to tell him she was not interested when he did something that got her attention: he bought her drinks — for her and her friend. (And when she recounted this story, the girls erupted in a communal “AWWWW”.)
They ended up talking for a long time. I’m not saying they’re going to start going to IKEA together, but the guy earned a few more minutes with her, a few more points.
It’s just such a simple, thoughtful move. It says: I’m paying attention to your situation, I want you to be happy and comfortable, I’m polite, and I want more than just go get into your pants right now. (I still might want to get in your pants, but I’m not going to be creepy about it.)
The thing is, you can’t be creepy and use this tactic as a free ticket. But if you’re a shy guy looking to stand out or you just feel like you need that little extra edge, buy her posse a round. And hey — if she isn’t impressed, maybe one of her friends will be…