So, You Let Her Slip Away. What’s the Best Way to Ask For a Second Chance?

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Q: “I met a girl at a busy time, and to be frank, she wasn’t a priority. But now I regret that I let her slip away. How should I go about getting back in touch?”

A: If you want a second chance, there are some key themes you’re going to have to hit on before you ask her out on a date. (Your best bet is probably to have this conversation over the phone, not via text—you want to sound sincere, don’t you?) But no matter how you decide to contact her, here’s what you need to address:

1. You blew her off.

You can’t just waltz back into her life out of the blue with no acknowledgement that you were the one to stop contacting her. If you do, you send the message that you either think she’s stupid or has no standards. As awkward as it may feel to talk openly about what happened, it’s the elephant in the room. It needs to be addressed.

2. Why you did it.

The why matters because it explains to her that she wasn’t the problem—your life circumstances were. Even if you blew her off because an ex came back into your life, you’re still better off explaining your behavior. Us women folk are not unreasonable people—we get that dating is confusing and sometimes people make mistakes.

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