From dating smartly in your twenties to a totally new way to talk about sex, here are five TED Talks that will help shape the way you think about your dating life, for the better.
1. “Why 30 is not the new 20” – Meg Jay
Jay’s philosophy is that we shouldn’t be using our dating life in our 20’s as a throwaway. We should treat our 20’s as practice for having a normal, healthy relationship in our 30’s, rather than a time to sleep around, date assholes, and not get serious about anything.
2. “Sex needs a new metaphor. Here’s one …” – Al Vernacchio
Vernacchio believes that the baseball metaphor for sex is outdated and sexist. So he proposes we start using a different metaphor… pizza. It’s funny, interesting, and believe it or not, the pizza metaphor actually equates to one of the healthiest outlooks on sex humans can have. So… do you wanna get the usual tonight, or should we try some new toppings? ;-)
3. “Why domestic violence victims don’t leave” – Leslie Morgan Steiner
Through her touching person story, Steiner teaches us the signs to know if we might be entering an abusive relationship. It can happen to anyone, and armed with this knowledge she hopes we can recognize it before it goes too far.
4. “What you don’t know about marriage” – Jenna McCarthy
McCarthy teaches us the statistics of what makes a successful marriage, from how much you weigh to who does the housework.
5. “The secret to desire in a long-term relationship” – Esther Perel
Where McCarthy tells you how to stay happy, Perel tells you how to keep sexual desire alive in a long-term relationship.