Sometimes deciphering men’s texts can be like translating ancient Greek. Is he really “LOL?” And when should you stop sending him that floating question mark after he is—or isn’t—ignoring you? Enter HeTexted.com, a site where users upload screenshots of their maddening man texts for community commenting. HeTexted.com co-founder Carrie Henderson-McDermott breaks down the top nine man texts that confuse and enrage us.
The Send-A-Pic Text
A common gateway to sexting, this is when your crush asks you to send a picture of yourself, sending you into a panic looking for good lighting, cute angles, and indecision over whether or not you should go the R- or G-rated route.
Example: “Your outfit sounds hot. Send a pic!”
What to do: Consider the recipient and make sure it’s someone you really trust. “This is the text that guys send to see how far they can get you to go,” says Henderson. “It rarely ends well. Our rule: If you wouldn’t send it to your mother, don’t send it.”
The Noncommittal Text
These are the sporadic texts that roll in from your “free-spirited” friend (with benefits?). Usually they are vague, but sometimes, confusingly, virtually flirtatious.
Example: “Kinda crazy week with work but will let you know,” “Around this week?”
What to do: “If he leaves things open-ended, you can do better,” Henderson says. “Move on.” #delete
The Double Text
You’ve waited hours (or okay, minutes) for him to respond to your text. So You start sending him more messages: Questions, question marks, anything you think will get him to respond. And now you’re that crazy girl asking him how his grandmother’s dog you saw (in a picture) once is doing!!!
Amy: Are you there?
Amy: Okay, well let me know, I wanted to ask you what you were up to this weekend.
Amy: I have tickets to this game, and wanted to see if you were free…….??????
What to do: “We’ve all been there, but it’s not a cute place to be,” admits Henderson, who says women should use self-control and put the brakes on if they don’t receive a text from the guy after reaching out the first time around: “A guy that doesn’t respond to your first text doesn’t deserve a second one.”
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