The Pros and Cons of Being “In a Relationship” on Facebook

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Pro:  You’re in a relationship! Somebody loves you! You (naturally!) want to shout it from the rooftops.

Con: Whether or not you’re in a relationship is no one else’s business, least of all your third cousin’s, your friend from Middle School, and the guy who sits three cubicles down from you.

Pro: Being “Facebook Official” does seem to somehow make the relationship feel a bit more…legit. There’s no more waffling, no more “let’s see where this leads…”, no more open-endedness. You guys are in a relationship and everyone knows.

Con: Neither of you should feel insecure enough about your relationship to need a Facebook status to prove its legitimacy.

Pro: All your exes, past flings, crushes, and frenemies can see the awesome person you’ve ended up with!

Con: All your exes, past flings, crushes, and frenemies can stalk the sh*t out of your poor new significant other.

Pro: According to an article in Business Insider, “Men who listed their partnership status (“In a relationship with…”) … had happier relationships.”   

Con: A Facebook breakup is awkward and oh-so-public.

Pro: You like that there’s an easy way for people to check your relationship status without awkwardly having to ask you about it. It’s a quick, simple way to instantly let everyone know what the deal is.

Con: Anyone who needs to know my relationship status would figure it out from real life.

Some More Thoughts:

“For a while, I thought they were bizarre, show-offy, totally not private. But then when I realized I was in a relationship that was going to last a long time, it’s like, Ron Burgundy. I wanted to shout my love from a mountain, but I didn’t have a mountain, I had a Facebook.” – Chris, 25, Brooklyn

“Not sure if this is a product of everyone (including grandparents) being on Facebook, or ofhaving dated a while, but [Facebook relationships] used to seem a LOT more important.”@lellenee

“I’ve been dating my fella for over a year & we arent fbookrelationshipped. We both have too many weirdos in our friendlist.”@lschuldberg

“My gf should be secure enough not to need to broadcast it on fbook.” – Cary, 26, San Francisco

“I sort of regret it, because i don’t think it needs to be on there. But on the other hand, I feel like it clears up confusion with other people who may think you’re single. I’m sort of self conscious about that at work with some male colleagues, so I thought that might help clear things up.” -Katherine, New York
“It invites all your FB into your personal business & that’s weird. Also can be embarrassing unless you’re married (even then).”@rumblefish416

“I was just excited about it and felt like it’s the first relationship I’ve kinda felt sure about. So, I was excited for people to know, especially friends who knew us both and who would be surprised to see that we had gotten together.”– Sam, 29, New York

“For me it was a passive way to inform my sort of sensitive, Facebook-obsessed friend with benefits (hate that term) that I was with someone so when he got back to New York
from California, I wouldn’t have to say anything.” -Emily, 26, Brooklyn

What do you think? Are Facebook relationships a good idea, or a bad one?