Last night, at a company dinner, my boss (and HowAboutWe co-Founder) Brian Schechter came over to where I was sitting.
“I have an idea for a post,” he said, excitedly. “Girl dates.”
He looked at me expectantly. I blinked, confused.
“Look around the room: this restaurant is full of two girls sitting together having dinner.”
I glanced around, and indeed, the trendy, candle-lit restaurant was full of two-person tables occupied by women. Most had glasses of wine, some were sharing dinner, some were laughing, some were having serious conversations. Maybe some of them were lesbian couples, but most seemed platonic: just two friends having dinner, like I often do with my girl friends.
“So?” I asked Brian.
“What’s the deal with that?” He asked.
“Guys don’t do this?”
“No.” He said, definitively.
Is this just a huge difference between the sexes of which I was not previously aware? Sure, sometimes I’ll “grab a bite” with my girl friends, but more often than that, we’ll plan something nicer. When I make plans to hang out with a girl friend, we’ll choose a restaurant, call and make reservations, and often spend a good two hours or more at the table. We’ll do the whole shebang: appetizers, entrees, dessert, and a bottle of wine. Until last night, it never occurred to me that this was particularly date-y, but now that I look at it objectively, it does share a lot of the same traits as a date would. In fact, the only real difference between my romantic dates and my friend dates is that…well, one kind is romantic and one kind is platonic. Sure, real dates are often more exciting, but at least with girl dates, I know I’m guaranteed a good time.
This whole topic raises a new question for me: Are your friend hangout spots different than your date spots? Or do you go to the same restaurants and places with friends and dates?