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Vocab Lessons: Bluffting

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We’ve long stated that strategic texting can be a superior tool in your dating arsenal. (See: 7 Reasons A Text Is Better Than A Call.)

The Wall Street Journal takes it one step further this week and claiming that texting lends itself to some serious relationship power plays, and they’ve even coined a term for it.

Bluffting: verb. The art of strategically lying through text, in order to pique your partner’s interest.

According to the WSJ:

“Want to play it cool with someone? Seem busy and important? Then send a text—with a term of endearment—that appears to be written to someone else. Or ask “who is this?” when you receive a text. Have a friend text you repeatedly when you’re on a date. Claim not to have gotten a text you actually received.”

Bluffting can also mean simply waiting a prescribed period, be it a few hours or a few days, to respond to a text which you clearly received and read the moment it was sent.

Another killer example: Justine Campbell, 23, told the WSJ that she’ll often text guys while pretending to be drunk.

“She then texts a guy saying something honest (“I really like hanging out with you”) and makes sure to include spelling errors and mention her drunken state. If the guy responds nicely to what she said (“I like you, too. Why don’t we talk tomorrow?”), she considers him worth a date. If he writes back something inappropriate, he’s history.”

Pretty manipulative, right? But dating has always been rife with complicated courtship dances and power moves.

Tell me, have you ever blufft’d?

Here’s something I’ve done: responded to an email on my computer, but then added the “Sent From My iPhone” signature so that he would think I was out, and not waiting at my computer for an email. But it elicited the much desired “Where are you?” question, so it was kind of worth it. (I responded with “Home, now,” FYI, rather than construct some lie.)

Ok, your turn. Be honest!

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