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“I’m Going to Stop Texting People ‘I’m Going to Die Alone’” + More Dating & Relationship Resolutions

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We asked our readers, contributors, and friends of HowAboutWe to tell us what they’d like to work on in 2013 when it comes to their dating lives or relationships. Here’s what they had to say.

“I recently read a quote on the subway (which makes this extremely credible) that said ‘No great story ever started with ‘We Stayed In.” I want to make sure we get out and enjoy the city more. Whether it be trying new restaurants, or nightly walks in different neighborhoods. The Housewives can wait.”

“Accentuating the positive! Catching my love doing positive acts and giving positive reinforcement instead of mostly mentioning the negative.”

“My goal is, just remember this: If you like hanging out with him — if it makes you happy — that’s really all that matters. Don’t worry about the things that are ‘deal breakers’ or reasons why ‘it’d never work.’ If you enjoy his company stick with it.”

“Going to therapy! By myself I mean, to help make myself a better partner and reduce the burden on her.”

“I’ve resolved to make sure my live in boyfriend has time with his friends and I make some ‘me’ time next year. All too often I just assume we’re going to hang out every night. But I know a little time apart would make our time together more special.”

“I should go on more dates in general. It’s easy to get caught up in the work-work cycle and I’m so behind on everything. I only started Mad Men and Game Of Thrones this year and I haven’t watched Breaking Bad or Modern Family… SO I guess my resolution would be find a date that hates going out on weekends and wants to watch TV all day? (Reaching for the stars!)”

“I’d like to work on not chasing people who don’t want to be caught, choosing people who are available, and believing I deserve greatness.”

“I am definitely going to stop texting people ‘I am going to die alone’ …… and I need to learn to say ‘no’ if I don’t want to go out with someone or don’t want to hang with them romantically or go on a second date. Right now I just do the slow fade and hope they forget they’re interested…I need to man up!”

“This year I’d like to try not assuming the worst in people. I’ve been so angry at the last few guys I’ve been involved with for all the various ways they’ve wronged me that I’ve started carrying that over into every new dating possibility, reading some bad motive into every action. I don’t want to be the victim anymore, and I don’t want to mess up my future by living in the past so from now on, I’m going to try to give dates the benefit of the doubt.”

“In 2013 I plan to take dating more seriously and be less judgemental & more open to opportunities. I plan to try harder to be more interested in the friends of friends that I meet who are single instead of staying in my own little world not acknowledging new, cute, single male friends.”

“I would like to try and figure out the difference between really liking someone for their unique personality, versus really liking just the attention and being in a relationship. I don’t know why this is difficult for me to differentiate, but I have learned that it is.”

“I’d like to work on overcoming the mental exhaustion that dating requires and the latent resentment toward the male species for being so un-evolved as to force me to keep dating in an effort to find just ONE GOOD MAN (whom I’m attracted to).”

“My resolution is to go with my instincts! I’m always afraid that people will think I’m being too picky. I’m afraid I’ll think I’m being too picky! And there are plenty of examples of people who fell in love after giving someone a second chance. But I’ve taken it too far, ignoring obvious red flags and waiting for some kind of breakthrough when I knew all along it wasn’t going to work out. In 2013 it’s fireworks or NOTHING. ”

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