According to researchers at Indiana University-Purdue University Fort Wayne, we’re not getting off on emoticons and dick pics like we used to. Not that we’re not sending them. We are definitely still sending them. It’s just that we don’t want to be. Welcome to the age of “requisexting.”
Unlike regular sexy sexting, which is theoretically a mutually pleasurable experience between people who want to be sending each other hot, hot acronyms, requisexting isn’t fun. It’s not pleasurable. There are no orgasms involved. You sext because you’re horny. You requisext because you feel obligated.
Of the 150 undergrads surveyed — 62 men and 93 women, all of whom were or had been in committed relationships — about half reported participating in “unwanted sexting.” And somewhat surprisingly, the guys were almost as likely as the ladies not to be feeling it: 48 percent of men and 55 percent of women admitted to sometimes iPhoning it in.
Which isn’t necessarily as depressing as it seems. It is only sometimes as depressing as it seems. Yes, some of the requisexters said they got it requi-on because they were “bored” or “taking drugs,” which is not a particular endorsement of youth or modernity. Some said they requisexted because they felt insecure in their relationships and “feared abandonment or alienation from their partners,” which isn’t great, either.
But more frequently, the requisexters said they were doing it to “flirt, engage in foreplay, satisfy a partner’s need, or foster intimacy in their relationship.” In a situation that’s non-coercive and generally healthy, giving a little more than you feel like sometimes isn’t the worst thing in the world, especially if you can do it while simultaneously shopping for cereal bowls on Amazon. You know, hypothetically.
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