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Haven’t you heard? Sexting is migrating from slutty foreplay to the key to a successful relationship. (Can you hear all the boyfriends cheering out there?)

Sexting is a term coined by and for the millennial generation. On behalf of said millennials, our digital world is our platform for expression and communication – it should be no surprise we express our sexuality through technology. In our “always on” era, whether we are on iMessage, Tinder, WhatsApp, Snapchat, or Facebook Messenger: sexting, and nudity, has become so commonplace, it is now a very normal and healthy part of dating – and now, modern relationships.

According to a study published in Computers in Human Behavior, sexting is just as much a part of modern monogamy as it is hookup culture. In a questionnaire that asked 459 hetero, unmarried undergraduate students about their sexting habits – it was found that sexting was more common for those in a stable relationship than single. Sexting, as it was revealed, is related to comfort within an intimate relationship, rather than insecure attachment.

Researcher Rob Weisskirch revealed further insight in an article for The Conversation:

“What this tells us is that people may be concerned with pleasing their partner’s desire — or perceived desire — to engage in sexting, and that it is the comfort with intimacy in relationships that may allow sexting to occur. And, when there is greater relationship commitment, this continues to be the case,” Weisskirch wrote.

Need help navigating the language of sexting? Refinery29 have some helpful examples.