So you spent the first flaw-free moments of 2012 Frenching a stranger. What now? Are there any hopes you and this mysterious human can make a go of it? Sure, why not? It’s a new year filled with promise and hope — plus, what else are you doing? Here are some tips for taking that relationship to the next level.
If they are a stranger, ask them on an actual date: Truly, this is the first major step. Despite the fact that you’ve already spent the year switch swapping spit, you need to take things backwards in the courtship. Ask them on a real date. Go and eat food and talk to each other. Don’t fret about things they told you that you definitely forgot. Just start over, and see if you like what you found.
If it’s someone you know, ask them on an actual date: Sure, you guys have been pals forever, or near makeout friends for a little bit. If you want to transition this to an actual real-life relationship, you need to step up to the plate. Call this person (not text) and talk a little bit and try to go eat some food. Let your actions speak to your changing status, and you’ll see if they’re ready to take it to the next level, or if your chances of courtship are as crumbled as some old confetti.
Do some mental recon: Now ask yourself, what do you recall of those ball dropping? Imagine this is an episode of Bones and see what you can piece together. Try to figure out what you can about your would be suitee. Find them on the ‘Book, etc. And see if you like that little thread your pulling out. And most of all, be honest with your own memories. If you recall this person acting clammy and weird the evening of said makeout, things probably aren’t going to get warmer in the light of day.
Don’t force the issue: Sure it’s an adorable meet cute, and probably plot enough turn your story into a Katherine Heigl movie if it works out, but that isn’t always enough. Be honest with yourself if it’s worth the effort. If you find there are no sparks when you meet up in the middle of January, chock it up to the holiday goggles, and let your party partner go. The worst crime of 2012 would be wasting time with the wrong person, when your possible 2013 kiss is waiting around the corner.