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We teamed up with Bowlmor to bring you a guide on how to be confident and impress on a first date. Whether you are going bowling, for ice cream, or just a drink, you will be at your best.

You’re going on a first date. The hard part is over: you asked, they said yes. Or, they asked, you said yes. Or, you both kind of mumbled and hinted at each other until you came to the mutual conclusion that you would like to go out. Whatever the way it came to light, you now need to pick the perfect first date spot – which is no easy task.

The secret? Have a plan. The plan can be anything. What matters is that you propose one. In doing so, you are showing that you are a person that can conceive an idea, communicate that idea, and execute that idea. The broader, the better! What is not incidental, though, is your ability to suggest an activity, and then stand by this activity. “Oh, let’s go to this place at this time,” you say, and then you do that. This is so basic, a preliminary tenant of being a fun, competent, single adult, the kind of adult who does not make getting a drink into a 24 text message affair.

The perfect first date comes from the plan. But the plan itself does not matter.  The point of having a plan is to show that you’re capable of having and expressing coherent thoughts, and to take the pressure off of your date. That’s it, period. That is all your plan has to do. It does not have to be perfect. It does not have to be brilliant, novel, inspired, hilarious, or completely original. Yes, it should be thoughtful — thoughtful is good. If you know your date-to-be is into classical music and also vegan food, and you have discovered that the Philharmonic is playing a secret concert that just happens to be right near a stellar vegan restaurant, then fantastic and you win. But if the best you can do is suggest a specific Thai restaurant in a specific place at a specific time, that is totally fine, in my book. The point is to suggest something.

You can take someone on a first date to a Broadway show, and order expensive drinks no one can afford. You can take someone to a documentary premier and a hole-in-the-wall restaurant. You can head to a vegan cafe and split a burrito. It ultimately doesn’t matter, just have a plan.

No first date is notable because of what you do, or where you go. They are notable if you like the person you are with. That’s it. The person matters. The activities are just backdrops. Good backdrops, but still: backdrops. The actually-important things – the talking, the chemistry – could happen doing almost anything. But they couldn’t have happened doing nothing. And that’s the key. A successful first date needs a plan, but that’s all it needs: a plan. Because the best plans? They’re the ones that exist.

Wording from this post taken from Rachel Sugar.