Look, let’s get really candid. Most women have faked an orgasm during sex – at least half a dozen times. If you are in a relationship, you may find you are doing so up to once a week, if you aren’t, you are probs doing it every second time you get jiggy.
At the end of the day, it takes most women a lot longer to orgasm during sex then it does men, especially with someone that doesn’t know what turns you on. Ain’t a bad thing, just fact. Now, unsurprisingly, a small study has revealed that women fake orgasms for a specific reason: so the sex will be over sooner rather than later.
The study, presented at the British Psychological Society, surveyed 15 women from the ages of 19 to 25 about their experiences faking it under the sheets. The women questioned, however, were all discussing what they deemed “bad sex,” from unwanted sex, to just a shitty experience.
“Despite being recruited to talk about consensual sex, all women spoke explicitly of a problematic sexual experience,” stated the press release for the study. “Participants said that faking orgasm was one way of exerting more control and getting out of sex when there didn’t seem to be other options available,” writes Angela Chen for Gizmodo.
The study puts forward a discussion about our sexual expectations in today’s society. Ultimately, consent is mercurial – however this looks at that consent as blurry, whether in a happy relationship or not. While the active consent is 100% warranted, “yes i want to have sex with you,” passive consent is another thing altogether. As Cosmopolitan notes, “one woman’s “bad sex” could easily be another woman’s rape”.
It seems our cultural conceptions of consensual sex are a little warped… We live in a world where if you are a woman having bad sex it is highly unlikely you are going to stop mid-way and voice your displeasure – I mean that is just awkward turtle. Fake it until you make it, right? Maybe not. The first step is for the man to actually ask if we are enjoying ourselves.