In the topsy turvy world of digital romance, your online dating profile is your golden ticket. Whether you are choosing what photos to post or agonizing over the written word – deciding who you are is the key to finding a possible match. Confidence is sexy, ladies!
Here, we have formed 10 tips to help you put your best self forward in the world of online dating.
1. Let Your Photos Do The Talking
The photos that you post tell just as much of a story about you as your written profile does. Creating the perfect profile is all about showcasing your personality – be sure to go for snaps that represent who you are as a person. Think about your life, and formulate a background that you can piece together and translate into images. What do you actually like to do with your time? For example, you may have gone white water rafting once and loved it, but you bike to work everyday. Include a photo of you on a bike!
2. Presentation Is Key
It’s all well and good to talk about what kind of photos you should feature on your profile, but when we get down to wardrobe it can be hard to come up with the perfect shot! When it comes to choosing your clothing, a mix of casual and formal wear is always best – choose clothes that fit your personality and not a version you think people want to see.
3. Utilize Your Natural Beauty
Use your makeup to retouch within reason. In other words, keep the freckles, but lose the blemish on your nose! Remember that your date wants to see what you look like in your everyday life, and the secret to this is illuminating your natural beauty.
4. Put Your Storytelling Hat On
Successful profiles define who you are, not what you want. When it comes to the written word, avoid listing dealbreakers or the physical attributes you are looking for. The trick that always works? Storytelling. Stories help people remember information and foster a personal connection with you – an illustrative anecdote always elicits a positive reaction!
5. Get Specific
When you want to use a word to describe yourself, think of an anecdote or example that shows how you embody that trait and use that instead. For example, if you are a romantic, you may say, “I am the type of person who wants to plan a surprise candlelit dinner and go dancing under the stars”. Or if health and fitness is important to you, you might write, “I couldn’t think of a better date than running around Central Park together.”
6. Balance It Out
Remember to save some information for the first date! If you write your life story on your profile, you won’t have anything left to talk about. Steer clear of writing an autobiography and edit, edit edit. Try and shorten your paragraphs to three to four sentences each.
7. Keep An Open Mind
Try not to be too specific when it comes to your ‘type’. If you have a checklist of what you are and aren’t looking for in a date you are turning away potential matches before you even get to see if you have a connection! Some qualities are non-negotiable (of course), but try and position these things as ‘bonuses’ rather than ‘musts’. For example, ‘It’s a bonus if you have blue eyes!’
8. Steer Clear Of The Drama
And by that, we mean exes. If you look a million dollars in a photo with your ex, cut it. If you have a great memory that you would love to share, but it was with your ex, cut it. It is a huge turn-off for a possible date to think about your past relationships, you need to focus on the possible present! In fact, if you want to avoid drama all together, don’t put a photo up of you with anyone of the opposite sex that could be misinterpreted as an ex – even if he really is your brother!
9. Ask Questions
A great way to get the attention of someone on your dating profile is to ask questions that they can answer for you. For example, ‘I went ice skating at the Rockefeller Centre last week, but haven’t done so in Central Park. What about you?’ Hello, ice skating date!
10. Love Yourself!
The ultimate tip? Be proud of who you are, and don’t hide your natural beauty. After all, falling in love is about finding someone who makes you feel like your best self around them – who loves you for who you are. Online dating just makes the search for that special someone much more efficient!