Ask any woman what qualities they’re looking for in a partner and you’ll find that a sense of humor is almost always in the top five. But, is the same true of men who date women?
According YourTango’s poll of 200,000 men, a sense of humor ranked as the fourth most important trait that men look for in a woman — above general body type. Men. Rated a sense of humor. As more important. Than what a woman’s body looks like. Really.
So, maybe these men were lying. (It’s been known to happen.) Or, maybe there really is something incredibly attractive about a woman who cracks you up.
Here are five possible reasons that men place laughing above looks.
1. It’s Disarming
Being put off your game can be a huge turn on — especially if you’re not used to it. If a woman is matching a guy quip for quip, it means his regular routine isn’t working. Which means he’ll have to work harder. Which makes him really want to have sex with that hilarious woman.
2. Funny = Down For Whatever (Maybe)
No, no, no. I’m not saying that a sense of humor means a woman is easy. I’m saying that it means she’s probably not too uptight. People who are really funny are often that way because they’re willing to let themselves venture down strange neural pathways that others won’t. While it doesn’t necessarily mean anything, a liberated mind could indicate that a person may be liberated in other areas, as well. Which is, you know, promising.
3. Laughter Mimics Sex
Have you ever noticed what happens to your body when you laugh really hard? You get flushed, you breath quickens, you emit weird sounds that you would never otherwise let yourself make in front of another person — your body is out of control, but enjoyably so. Sound familiar? That’s because it’s like sex.
If someone makes you laugh really hard, it’s almost like you’ve already had sex with them — without touching them at all. Which makes you awfully curious about what that might be like.
Humphrey Bogart and Lauren Bacall had it in “The Big Sleep.” Cary Grant and Rosalind Russel had it in “His Girl Friday.” We’re talking about sexual tension as the result of clever wordplay, and there’s nothing like it.
It’s hot. And if you’re not funny, you can’t do it.
5. More Comfortable, More Real
No one, not even you, has sex like they do in the movies every time. We are humans, and are therefore subject to weakness, folly, embarrassing bodily functions, failed attempts at “dirty talk,” and general clumsiness. Not everything goes as planned in the boudoir, and isn’t it better to be with someone who will make a joke when things take an unexpected turn, rather than be mortified? Laughter won’t kill the mood completely — awkwardness will.