Not being salacious here — this is a serious question that a Canadian-based dating site was forced to consider. Camelot Introductions recently started admitting daters who have the herpes virus…and has banned smokers from the site.
According to a Fox News report:
“As of a year ago, we stopped accepting clients who smoke, because time after time, when we were attempting to match (them), their files would be rejected,” said Lianne Tregobov, of Camelot.
Herpes, however, seems to be less of a dealbreaker.
“We don’t necessarily match two people with herpes together, we match based on compatibility and based on acceptance,” she said. “Every single person is asked are you open to it? Yes or no.”
So, at least in Canada, more people are open to the possibility of dating someone with herpes than someone who smokes.
For many people, both smoking and having herpes are relatively undesirable qualities in a partner — and given the opportunity to eliminate daters with either quality is appealing. But then, once we start ticking stuff off, there are a ton of random things I’d like to eliminate: I don’t want a boyfriend with halitosis, or with erectile dysfunction, or one who cracks his knuckles or with athlete’s foot or with annoying digestive problems or food allergies — and speaking of allergies, a boyfriend allergic to dogs or cats would be disastrous, and could he please also not do hard drugs, and never get sloppy drunk to the point of me having to take care of him? The list could go on and on.
At some point, you have to just stop including stuff on dating profiles: because while my wishlist for a perfect boyfriend could be pages long, I’d probably be willing to overlook almost anything for the right guy.
So why is it acceptable to ask “Are You A Smoker?” on a dating site, and not ok to say “Disease Preferences”? Smoking is a lifestyle choice, herpes isn’t: one is voluntary, one isn’t. And you can’t really judge/blame people for what they have little or no control over.
What do you think of Camelot Introduction’s non-smoking, herpes-inclusive policy?