Rihanna was recently a guest on the UK’s Jonathan Ross Show. While on the show, she talked about her love life and said “Single life is so overrated. It sucks. I have such incredible experiences in my life. You don’t want to live your life and then meet someone. You want to share your life with someone. That’s what I’m missing right now.”
While I can identify with what Rihanna said and agree that it would be nice to have a partner to share my life experiences with, it’s important to keep one key thing in mind: better no partner than the wrong one. And if it’s true that she’s still hooking up with her ex-boyfriend Chris Brown, who beat her so badly she had to go to the hospital, then I hope she reconsiders her philosophy that anything is better than being single.
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Being single is not the same thing as being solitary. There are plenty of options between Have Experience With Person and Have Experience Alone. Last month, I went on a trip to Amsterdam. I’m single, so I went on the trip with a friend, plus ended up meeting some cool people while I was there. It was an amazing experience, and the fact that I don’t have a boyfriend can’t change the fact that it was amazing. Guys aren’t the only people who you can make memories with. I have some pretty kickass friends, and I wouldn’t want to say they’re second best to some hypothetical dude. And if I do meet The Dude at some point, it won’t cheapen or nullify the fun experiences I had before meeting him.
Yes, it would be nice to have a partner to share inspiring or awesome moments with, but if my only other option is lying around wallowing in my own pitifulness then the solo vacation is going to win out. Being single totally has its advantages and disadvantages, but so does being coupled up. And let me tell you: if my choices were “being single” and “dating Chris Brown” I’d choose the single life every single time.