Show Him You The Flyest (And Other Dating Tips from Beyonce)by Ramou Sarr on September 04, 2013
It’s Queen Bey’s birthday and I can’t think of any better way to honor her than to thank her for the life lessons she has given us and remind us all how she’s taught us to be better people, in better relationships.
Know You’re The Baddest Bitch
Beyonce certainly isn’t shy about letting us know that she thinks very highly of herself, and that there’s nothing wrong with that. Confidence is among the most important attributes that allows you to “put yourself out there” in terms of dating, and yet there’s a fine line between being confident and arrogant.
“Run the World (Girls)” toes that line, but is more than just a self-congratulatory anthem for girls and women, it’s about giving women permission to believe that they’re powerful while being unapologetic about it. It’s about telling women that it’s OK to love yourself to death: This goes out to all the women getting it in / You’re on your grind / To other men that respect what I do / Please accept my shine / Boy I know you love it / How we’re smart enough to make these millions / Strong enough to bear the children / Then get back to business.
Know you’re amazing, Beyonce says, and you’ll let others know that too.
Don’t Put Up With Nonsense
It may seem simple, but walking away from a toxic relationship can be tough. In “Irreplaceable” Beyonce gives us the courage to walk away from a terrible cheating partner who doubted our ability to do so in the first place.
“You must not know ‘bout me,” she says, dismissing the hypothetical partner’s last ditch efforts to get her to stay by telling her that she’ll never find a man like him, adding, “I can have another you in a minute / Matter fact, he’ll be here in a minute.” And you know what? I believe her. Beyonce wants you to know that sometimes the best recourse in a bad relationship is to simply tell your soon-to-be ex-partner to come pick up their shit. It’s over there – to the left, to the left.
It’s Cool to Shout Your Love From the Rooftops
Beyonce wants you to know that when the stars align and your bad bitch mentality and unwillingness to put up with nonsense grants you an amazing partner that you’re so in love with and can’t imagine living without, it’s OK to let the whole damn world know how happy you are.
“Crazy In Love” shows Bey’s own surprise at how lucky in love she is and how it’s hard for her to even put in words how she feels: Such a funny thing for me to try to explain / How I’m feeling and my pride is the one to blame / Yeah, cause I know I don’t understand / Just how your love can do what no one else can.
Again, in “Love on Top,” Beyonce sings about being unabashedly in love with a partner whose admiration for her is the cherry on top of an already perfect sundae: Come on baby it’s you / You’re the one that gives your all / You’re the one I can always call / When I need you make everything stop / Finally you put my love on top. Even if you’re not in love with someone at the moment, Beyonce makes you love her love. And don’t you just love that?
Return The Favor
Ms. Knowles-Carter knows that the secret to a great relationship is a mutual respect and adoration for one another. Your partner is the best. They put you on top. They would do anything for you. Beyonce says: Reciprocate!
“Countdown” is essentially Beyonce’s guidebook on how to take care of your man, with helpful tips like: Ladies, if you love your man show him you the fliest / Grind up on it, girl, show him how you ride it and Yup, I put it on him, ain’t nothing that I can’t do / Yup, I buy my own, if he deserve it, buy his shit too.
It’s Beyonce saying that it’s not a one-way street; she too puts her partner’s love on top. She’s not ashamed to let us know that she’s so in love: Damn I think I love that boy / Do anything for that boy, but, predictably and so, so wonderfully, also not afraid to remind us, and him, that she’s the best: If you leave me you’re out of your mind.
Thank you, Beyonce. And Happy B’Day.
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