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The Key Problem With Men Giving Up Masturbation to Achieve Success

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seinfeld the contestLeave it to the Brain Gang over at TED and a few journalists to take away one of the last great things we men have going for us: masturbation. Not sure if you caught this article, or the recent influx of posts that are touting non-masturbation as the second coming, but there’s a newfangled movement out there, as well as some science (if you look at it just, just the right way) that claims man’s greatest threat to reaching his potential is his insistence on whacking off. The long cherished “my time” that’s kept man sane and satiated from the time of cave dwelling is now the problem du jour. Is there nothing sacred, TED?

For those of you too busy touching yourselves to have read up on this trend, here it is in a, er, nutshell: a fervent group of men believe that jerking off kills testosterone, dilutes overall energy, clouds the mind, weakens self-confidence, and destroys ambition. In short: it makes you less of a man. Want to land that dream job? Dream girl? Want to kick start a new career? Want to discover your true potential? Then put down that silly cock and redeem your intended life.

Can this possibly be true? Can the answer to all our problems be staring us right in the boxers? I think not. Rather, I think this movement is missing the bigger human truths: we humans (both male and female, and everything in between) really get off on setting up a challenge and then meeting it. We crave goals, and we feel extremely good when we meet those goals. The harder the goal is to reach, the more powerful we feel upon achieving it.

Secondly, we tend to feel more powerful in our lives when we are relentlessly self-monitoring (and, in some cases, self-denying).

If you believe in the causal relationship…and a higher level of existence, then keep on doing what works for you.

As such, a specific accomplishment can act as a springboard for other seemingly-unrelated accomplishments. Let’s call this the “Wow, Look at What I Did; I Wonder What Else I Can Do” model. In my estimation, this is at the very crux of the anti-jerk-off movement. Men who claim to have gained confidence, landed dates with gorgeous women, and scored elite job offers BECAUSE they abstained from masturbation may be confusing cause and effect. The successful fulfillment of a goal led to the self-confidence boost — not the lack of masturbation itself.

I’m not saying abstaining from ejaculation on the whole doesn’t have any impact. But I find it mighty suspect that these anti-beaters ascribe so much power to it.

But I’m not here to cause a civil war between those who freely jerk and those who abstain. Ultimately, this is a matter best left to the discretion of the individual and his personal sense of growth and stability, control, and discipline. Any men who are currently rallying around their lifeless cocks as some sort of “magical mojo” totem— I say go on with your bad self. If you believe in the causal relationship between hand-to-cock-deprivation and a higher level of existence, then keep on doing what works for you.

But as for me, and the rest of the brotherhood of free masturbators, I object to the notion that we are inherently weaker because we beat off. We aren’t routinely emasculating ourselves, or “clinging to our cocks and tissues” out of fear. Rather, we are exercising (and balancing) the full spectrum of our sexuality. There is something, I profess, to be said about embracing this “middle path.” Especially when it’s charged and ready between one’s legs.

[image via thecoveringpolitician]

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