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We Talked to Reid Scott About Love And He Said Girls Don’t Talk Enough But He Was Totally Joking

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We first fell in love with Reid Scott in 2006 as the good-looking (and semi-permanent) frat boy Brendan Dorff on the TBS sitcom My Boys. He has continued to melt our hearts with his role as the caring and empathetic (and hot!) Dr. Todd Mauer on The Big C. Now the New York native and Syracuse alum, 34, is gracing the big screen as Ben in Losing Control (a role that he loves because it shows the girl getting cold feet in a relationship instead of the guy), and gearing up for the April 22nd premiere of Veep on HBO with Julia Louis-Dreyfus.

We caught up with Scott to talk My Boys, favorite hobbies, and what us chicks really need to know about relationships. Trust us, he’s dishing out some totally honest advice.

How About We: Of all the characters you’ve played, which one is most like you?

Reid Scott: Wow, that’s a good question. I don’t think any one really stands out as being most like me. Obviously there’s a little bit of any actor in any character that he’s playing. I’m probably closer to Brendan from My Boys or Dr. Todd from The Big C. But no one would actually confuse me with any of those characters.

Speaking of My Boys, what do you think Brendan would be doing now if the series was still on the air?

Oh god! He probably would have driven some other business under water, and had his heart broken three more times, [laughs].  [As for a potential romance with P.J.], I don’t know that I was necessarily against the idea, but I could see how it could go there. I find it more interesting to play characters that are unattached. They just give you more directions to go in, especially if you’re attached to another main character on the show. For my part, I was always kind of happy they got to play the history and the tension, rather than actually see a relationship bloom out of it.

What do you like to do when you’re away from the set?

I like to snowboard, ski, hike, surf. I recently renovated this old house up in the Hollywood Hills that I had been working on for six months. I like to write, I play guitar. My mom is an artist, so I paint a little bit. I keep busy! It sounds like a very pretentious list, but I enjoy it. If I’m not learning something, building something, making something or seeing something, I tend to get bored real quick.

Tell us about your character in Veep.

Danny is a very driven, self-centered, very Machiavellian-type. He’s a ladder-climber for sure, which is a very Washington archetype. In the pilot, he actually sells out a senator that he’s working for a shot to work on the vice-presidency. He’s a pretty unscrupulous guy, but you know, there’s a heart in there somewhere.

Okay, now let’s get to the good stuff! Relationships! My Boys was a perfect example of how much girls love sports nowadays. If a girl is a die-hard sports fan, does that turn you on more, or does that scare you off?

I don’t know that it necessarily does either.  I know that’s a very non-committal answer, but I think it’s definitely really cool if she’s into sports. However, I’ve had some girl buddies take it too far. Some of them in college were such die-hard Syracuse football fans, they were out-bro-ing me and my bros, and I’m like, ‘ok, you can take that down a notch.’ [laughs] Obviously, I am a sports fan. It’s definitely more fun with your girl to go to a sporting event and know she’s having a good time rather than just humoring you. I love when girls dig sports, but sometimes they can take it too far. I guess I’m more of a traditional guy in that I like to definitely be the dude. I certainly don’t begrudge any woman her fandom. I love that, but there’s something to be said for hanging out and throwing back beers with your buddies as you’re watching the game. I think we’ve all — as you saw on My Boys – love having that girl friend that can do that with us, but sometimes it’s more fun to have that person as a friend than the person that you’re dating.

Let’s switch gears a bit on the relationship front. How far can a girl go with a guy if she isn’t ready to sleep with him, but doesn’t want to be labeled a tease? 

Wow! You’re really getting there! I’m going to put that in the power of the woman’s hands. She should be able to go as far as she wants, and I think it’s up to the dude to NOT label her a tease. I think it’s more his responsibility to say, ‘we’re all adults, and if she wants to set some boundaries, that’s totally her prerogative, and that’s fine.’ I don’t think it’s right to label anyone a tease. I mean, I think you know if you’re being teased, but in terms of rounding the bases, I think it’s a much more mature thing to take it slow and let it be what it is as long as you’re on the same page, I think it’s fine.

If a guy expressed a lot of interest in a girl and then disappeared without an explanation, but then comes back months later, should she give him a second chance, or say, ‘sorry, your loss?’ 

Well, I’m always a fan of hearing someone’s side of things, so I don’t know that she necessarily has to give him a chance. I mean, even for her own self-satisfaction, wouldn’t she want to hear his reasoning? So maybe give him a chance to explain, but you don’t necessarily have to give him a chance [to move forward together]. You can always call his bullshit.

I think most times what happens is that a guy has hooked up with another girl, or gotten into a relationship with that other girl, and then when that doesn’t work out, they’ll come back to you — because in their mind, they never officially ended it or told you ‘no.’

Yeah, and that’s totally lame. At least hear the guy out, if for no other reason than you can hear his idiotic response and then get a good laugh out of it.

What’s the biggest relationship mistake you’ve ever made? 

Oh man. [laughs] How much time do you have? I guess, probably — and it’s a pretty general thing — putting the ‘I’ before the ‘we.’ If you’re going to be in a relationship in the first place, my philosophy has always been to look after the ‘we,’ and hopefully they’re doing the same thing. But when you start just looking out for yourself, that’s when things — and you as a couple — start growing apart and it starts to crumble.

What’s the best thing you’ve done in a relationship that earned you major points? 

[Laughs] Oh man. I get good at this stuff! Early on in my relationship with my girlfriend now, I took her away for a weekend to Mexico where we could both just sort of get out of here, and be with each other. I think that scores major points, not just because it’s romantic, but because early on in a relationship if you can travel with someone and pull it off well, that’s going to really bode well for your future. If you want to take it to the next level, then travel.

Finally, what is your biggest pet peeve about women?

I don’t think they talk enough.

You’re kidding, aren’t you?

I’m kidding! [laughs] Oh man, I don’t know. It’s more of a pet peeve about the difference between men and women. As a man, we approach things with logic and women approach things with emotion. A lot of times communication lines can get crossed. Emotions tend to come first with women rather than logic and that’s just because I’m coming from a man’s [point of view]… not that one is better than the other, but as a man, I can’t help it, I lead with logic.

Check out Losing Control in a theatre near you, and visit the official website for more info.

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Photo courtesy of David Needleman 

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