Online dating can create this sort of comfort zone that can be hard to break out of. You’re putting yourself out there and wanting to meet new people, but when it actually comes time to decide on meeting face-to-face first, feet can get cold very fast. Here’s 5 reasons why you shouldn’t let yours freeze up:
1. You don’t want to be caught in an endless circle of messaging.
Yes, the point of online dating is to match with people and start the process of getting to know them via messages and emails (and, if you’re advanced, with phone calls!). However, if you never make a plan to meet them in person or let your nerves get the best of you by avoiding the subject all together, you’ll never get past the messaging-only phase and that’s no fun for anyone.
2. Sometimes, people aren’t as good with writing as they are in person.
In this day and age, we rely too heavily on how someone comes across via text. Why?! Just because someone can write a solid email or message doesn’t mean they’re going to be solid in real life. In fact, it could unfortunately turn out that they’re so good over text because they’re not so good in person. Of course, the best combination is when they’re both great over text and in person, but you’ll never be able to know that until you meet them.
3. Real dates are a rarity nowadays.
Let’s be honest: it seems that people have forgotten how to actually date. That is, ask someone out. Plan it. Make reservations. Actually follow-through on the date. It all seems simple, but we’ve made it complicated and sometimes hard to obtain. Therefore, if someone has their wits about them and suggests you meet after you’ve been messaging for an amount of time you feel comfortable with, you should respect their traditional nature and go for it! Take it as a compliment that they don’t want to end up like those who are stuck in the aforementioned endless cycle of messaging.
4. All great love stories started with a first meet.
The first meet/date is just as important as the first message, first time they make you laugh via message, and the first time you set up your first date. You can’t start your love story with anyone until you meet them face to face.
5. Because, even if it goes poorly, at least you’ll have a story.
Dating is trying, talking to and meeting many potential partners. Yes, it can be exhausting and sometimes you’ll get let down after let down, but try thinking of it this way: every bad first meet or date you have is a guaranteed great story. In fact, you can even tell future, wonderful first meets about your awful first meets!
In short, it’s important to get out from behind the computer or phone screen after a certain amount of time and throw yourself blindly into a situation of which you cannot predict the outcome. Shake things up and relish in that beautiful sense of unease because once you do find your match, you’ll never have to have a first meet again.
This post was originally published on the Match Media Blog.