It turns out, if you’re still friends with your ex you might be a psychopath.
I mean we just can’t win, can we?
A recent study conducted by psychologists at Oakland University has concluded that people with dark personality traits are more likely to stay in touch with former lovers. Psychologists studied ex-friendships in over 860 people, revealing that while not always practical, the so-called ‘friendships’ can trade ‘valuable resources,’ meaning that people who stay friends with an ex do so to use them for something, ranging from information, money, sex or love (*cough* sex). #justsayin’
Are you one of these ex-friendship-lover-devils? It all comes down to personality traits.
For men, pragmatism and sexual access were rated slightly more important than for women, on average, which was expected based on classical drivers for opposite sex friendships. However, when people scored highly for dark personality traits – which include elements of narcissism, psychopathy and Machiavellianism – they were more likely to choose practicality and the chance of hooking up as key drivers for remaining friends.
Our theory? It depends on how in love you were. In the meantime, if the person you’re dating is close to an ex, be wary – and if this sounds like you, you need to sort that shit out.