Vocab Lessons: ‘Gold Star’ Gay Man

Pin it

Here is something that, as a straight woman, I have never stopped to consider: depending on, I suppose, the age at which someone comes out of the closet and also personal relationship history, there are two types of gay men in the world:

Those who have had sex with women, and those who have not.

Vulture talked to Girls star Andrew Rannells at last night’s Girls screening, and he proudly claimed that he’s a “purebred” gay man:

Is having sex with a woman when you identify as a gay male equivalent to drinking martinis when you don’t identify as a martini-drinking guy?
I mean, yeah. I personally have never had sex with a woman. I’m more of what you call gold-star gay. I’m purebred. So I knew it wasn’t my thing, so I was like,Why do that? So I didn’t.

Is “purebred” a commonly used phrase for that?
In my circle of friends, it’s used. Like, “Andrew, he’s a purebred.” Yeah.

So what’s the equivalent for a gay guy who isn’t a purebred?
I feel like I’m in the minority for a lot of gay men. Most of my friends have tried [having sex with a woman] at some point.

Are you a gold star gay man? Or woman? Or straight person? Or did you turn in your gold star in favor of a little experimentation?