All men are different, believe it or not, but there are certain things that are pretty much guaranteed to put a guy off. They’re pretty easy to avoid, if you know what they are.
1. Not Listening
Maybe you’re just nervous. Maybe that’s why you cant. stop. talking. Pause, take a breath, and ask me a question besides “Y’know?”
2. Not Talking
On the other hand, if you’re not saying much of anything, not only do I learn nothing about you, but it’s annoying for me to have to do all the work.
3. Not Offering To Pay For Anything
I expect to pay on a first date and I don’t mind doing it. But when I feel like she expects it? Huge turnoff.
Regardless of the fact that I’ll probably insist anyway, if a woman doesn’t at least offer to pay for some portion of the date (“You get dinner, I’ll get drinks?”), it seems like she expects a guy to take care of her just because she’s a girl and not because she’s actually made a connection with him.
This one can be tricky, because we are going to talk about work. If you happen to work in the music industry and Ke$ha happens to be your primary client, it will be hard for you to talk about work without mentioning Ke$ha. That’s fair. However, if I end up getting unprompted info about how nice she actually is “in real life,” or what Ke$ha got you for Christmas last year, I might get a little suspicious that you’re trying to impress me with your close affiliation to a famous person. Which is not actually all that impressive.
5. Coming On Too Strong
If you have sex with me on a first date, that alone doesn’t mean I’m going to take you any less seriously as a long term dating prospect. Really, it doesn’t. If the vibe is there and we’re not afraid to act on it, good for us.
However, if you start coming on to me, out of nowhere, when I haven’t indicated that I might be interested, it makes me feel like I’m just a vibrator with a smile. Don’t get me wrong, sex may still happen, but it’s probably not going to happen ever again.